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QuestionI have been married for more than 10 years and enjoy a very good relationship with my wife. My work causes me to spend long periods of 4-6 weeks abroad (3 times a year) during time which I am increasingly tempted to seek an intimate relationship with a prostitute. Would this be considered adultery? Could you clarify and advise me on the religious aspects of my temptations and on what is allowed and what is forbidden.
Thank you for writing and sharing your thoughts.
For a man to be unfaithful to his wife is forbidden not only from the laws of forbidden sexual relations but also for the laws of interpersonal relationships such as "love your neighbor like yourself," and the command to walk in the ways of the Almighty.
The Talmud says that every woman you have relations with, your soul forms a bond and you will be attached to that person for all eternity.
It seems to me that if your work is causing this in your marriage, then perhaps your priorities should be reexamined.With blessings from Jerusalem,
Rabbi Shraga Simmons