Question

This is a tough question, but I am glad you asked.

Under Jewish law, the child of a Jewish mother is considered to be a Jew. However, if you and your husband baptize the child and provide for a Christian education, not all Jews would agree that your child is still Jewish just because he/she has a Jewish mother.

I would urge you to meet as quickly as possible with a Rabbi in your community to understand how that community will understand your Jewish identity as well as that of your child and family.

Similarly, you might also seek out family counseling or therapy to clarify what it is that you are really asking. What does it mean that your husband "tends" toward Christianity? Does his family push in that direction in terms of family get-togethers and do they follow such sacraments such as baptism and communion? Does your husband himself turn to Jesus as Lord and Savior? Would having both Hanukkah candles and a Christmas tree satisfy both of you or would you each prefer to have only your own religious symbols in the home as the child is raised? Is the child going to be attending Religious School, and will both parents be supportive of this education?

In addition to meeting with a rabbi and seeking family counseling, books about interfaith families may be helpful.

This will not be a cake-walk. Often expecting interfaith couples meet with a Rabbi and a Minister or Priest, and everyone is unhappy for awhile. Then a child is born, and a solution must be found. How will you as parents help the child to grow up in a positive, respectful, loving way without making him/her have to choose between whom s/he loves most? Tough order and I wish you well.