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My husband and I have been separated for four years, and we have both agreed to finally divorce, and obtain a Get. Although amicable, the question remains as to whether we obtain an Orthodox Get or a Conservative Get. According to the Orthodox rabbi we consulted with, the process would take 1.5 hours, and he explained that much of that time would be to write the document. My question is, what is the difference between an Orthodox Get and a Conservative one in terms of the actual process involved.
The Talmud says that while it may be the best decision to divorce, even the
stones of the altar in Jersusalem wept when a divorce occurred. It is a difficult
and painful decision, and I hope that only good lies ahead for you.
The procedures and the laws for both Orthodox and Conservative "get" are the same; they follow the same Jewish legal tradition.
The difference is primarily political - with which movement was the court and scribe affiliated who issued the get? I have been present in Jerusalem where the high court accepted a Conservative get when it was made clear that the Conservative Rabbi involved was a knowledgeable and observant Jew. On the other hand, it is often assumed, and sometimes by the nicest people, that Conservtive Rabbis are ignoramuses or that they deny the fundamental principles of Judaism and hence can't be trusted.
The best advice I can give you is to speak with your Rabbi and be guided by that opinion. If you are contemplating marriage, then speak with the Rabbi who will be officiating and again you can rely upon the local Rabbinic opinion as authoritative.
I can't give you halachic advice in this kind of forum - but I can wish you well in the future, and I do.d
Rabbi Barry Dov Lerner
Foundation for Family Education (FFFE)